8 Ways to Use Hateful Comments As Your Fuel to Success
You think you are your own worst critic, but I think the internet could beat you at that. We all know that the internet can be brutal! Here are 8 ways you can use hateful comments as your fuel to success:
1. Learn, learn, LEARN from the criticism by evaluating yourself.
DO NOT let the hate become your definition. DO NOT allow it to get in your head and heart, but listen to what they have to say. Use it to evaluate your wrongs and change yourself for the better. Remember, you are human and you are capable of making mistakes. You are also capable of learning and growing from those mistakes. Recognize when you have done wrong and this will empower you to be better.
2. Be more accepting of others based on this experience.
When you experience hate first-hand, you know the feeling of being treated horribly. Use this to vow that you would never treat someone like you have been treated. Always remind yourself that everyone is going through something and that lashing out is never the answer. Accept people for their flaws and provide them lessons through kindness. You will gain empathy which you can then use to help others going through a similar experience. You can motivate them and provided them support.
3. Be kind and humble even when they only have hateful words to share.
Taking the time to validate your every move simply is another invitation for criticism from the wrong people. Most likely, hateful people will continue to hate and nothing you say will change their minds. Hateful comments always stem from something, whether it was a trigger from a hurtful experience from their past or anger that has grown in them. People will only take the time to write out comments to hurt you because they are hurt themselves. Trust your path of growth. You will be better off than to validate yourself to them.
4. Learn to control your anger.
This is challenging when people say things about you after, for example, only seeing a 12-second video of you and defining you by it. It can make you really angry because they had all the opportunity to look into who you are but instead they utilize one content and spread hateful assumptions of who you are as a whole. Whether they are big youtube stars or wanting to be influencers (clearly I am still hurting from my own experience). You can’t change the past but you can take advantage of their actions by learning to control your anger and using this lesson throughout life. Stay calm and know you are worth more than their words and assumptions of who you are.
5. Ignore negative opinions of you.
Not everyone will like you and not everyone will agree with you. That is okay. We all have our own thoughts, mindsets, opinions, and interests. Focus on the positive. Be around positive people with a growth mindset and not people with constant negative opinions. Block hateful comments that provide you little value.
6. Love yourself including all of your flaws and failures.
People will use your past to attack you and bring you down, for example, use your past failures. They may use it to define you and attack your character. BE PROUD of your failures as they are the beautiful life-lessons that build you to be the warrior that you are. Do NOT conform to anybody’s beliefs. Again, love yourself for all your flaws and failures which are leading you to greatness.
7. Use their hate to motivate
Let their words sink in enough to push you forward. For example, people may tell you you are not good enough, you are not worthy. Use these negative comments to motivate you to learn and strive for success. You do not need to prove anything to anyone but yourself. Utilize their hate to fuel your fire to success. Work hard to be the best you can be.
8. Truly, Move-forward
What has happened has happened. It is in the past. It cannot be changed. If you did something wrong and you were criticized for it, learn from it, accept that it happened and move on. Learn from this very experience. You truly have gained so much from it and you will only see it with time. Don’t let it spiral you down a hole of depression and self-hate. People on the internet can care less about what happens to you, but your loved ones and the followers that support you, care a hell of a lot. Move forward! Focus on the good of it, the lesson. People will now learn through you.
